THE "RIGHT" TO BE SO ILL by Kathy Day

We just had a glaring incident of how untreated serious mental illness impacts the community. 

A young homeless man that I know well and love, had an extreme outburst in front of our apartment. I don’t know what set it off. He was eating a box of cereal and drinking some milk. Then I heard him yelling at the top of his lungs. He started chasing another person down the street. 

My neighbors across the street called the cops. They were terrified because they have two young boys and they didn’t want them to witness what was going on and they feared the young man could hurt someone. 

The officers who came are well trained in crisis intervention. I asked them to try to take him to a hospital. They said they’d try but wanted to let him cool down first. 

If he didn’t have the ‘right’ to be so ill, he’d have received the treatment he needs long ago. But the way the system is designed, he’ll have to demonstrate dangerousness, likely in the presence of law enforcement, before he gets any real treatment. 

Turns out he was taken to the ER a week ago on a psych hold. The ER discharged him within 24 hours.

If he’s released early again, this family will be afraid of his next incident. It’s not fair that they should have to deal with the failures of the system of mental healthcare.

A better kind of option: Welcome Home Housing, Sacramento, CA

A better kind of option: Welcome Home Housing, Sacramento, CA

MORE FEEDBACK FOR A MOTHER'S DIARY by Dede Ranahan

I have so enjoyed all "sooner than tomorrow" posts. Today's diary post mesmerized me. I loved Patrick's discussion about the poetry of our lives. I was touched by each and every paragraph of today's post.  J.A.

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COMING UP THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 21, 2017:  FALL 2013

Fall is an earnest season. In fall, nature reflects on itself and summons acceptance.
Dede Ranahan

"From California" by Gary Thompson
On John Muir's Trail
Bear Star Press 1999
For Patrick Ranahan

SEPTEMBER 18, 2013 - OCTOBER 1, 2013: Aging Can Wait * Real Change in the Air * Who's on First? * Silence * Old and Cranky * Off * Helena * A Pleasant Day * Today's News/Tomorrow's Rewrite * Before and After * Odds and Ends * Worth a Try * Too Much Fun

Pat and me 1969

Pat and me 1969

WE MOTHERS HAVE TO STICK TOGETHER by Dede Ranahan

Welcome to my blog. This is my first post. I've included the photo of the killdeer because a killdeer mom gave me courage when I needed it most.     

Excerpt from my book Sooner Than Tomorrow: "This morning I'm heartened on my early walk. The killdeer is back on her nest, in the same brown and gray rocks as before, one block over. No trees shade her. No bushes shield her from predators. She sits on four new eggs -- faithful, vulnerable, determined. 'You inspire me little Mama Bird, and I wish you the best. We mothers have to stick together.'"

Please know that I intend this blog to be about more than just me and my book. I want it to be a safe place for mothers and grandmothers and sisters and daughters - any family member or caregiver really - to tell our stories and to share insights about living our lives to the fullest while we try to help someone we love cope with severe mental illness.

Many mental health advocacy sites exist already. On the other hand, this site is about us -  a place where we can have thoughtful discussions about what we need to keep going in the face of overwhelming challenges. I envision this blog as our cheering section and online support group.

Some possible topics for upcoming discussions:

How do I keep my balance when mental illness in my family is creating chaos all around me?

When and how do I set boundaries with my ill family member?

How do I keep happiness and joy in my life when a family member has serious mental illness and is sad or depressed?

How do I work with mental health professionals on behalf of my adult child when privacy laws prohibit my interaction?

So here we go. Let's see where this takes us. I look forward to hearing from you, hosting our discussions,  and posting your stories.

Hope you're having a good week.

Dede